First things first, welcome to the new blog! It was time for an upgrade. It may take me a while to figure out all of the formatting but I’ll get there.
We’ve had a lot going on here recently. We’re soaking up the last few weeks of down time before baseball season begins for my son. Once baseball begins that consumes our schedule through July, and then comes football. We’ve filled our weekends with kid sleepovers and my husband has been feverishly studying for some tests at work the prior two weekends.
Last weekend was our first weekend with NOTHING to do and I was looking forward to it the entire week. That’s not to say we did nothing but we made our own schedule and that was nice.
My kids are 11, 9 and 4 and so I’m a little late to the game here, but after 2 years of trying to figure out how to approach it and what would work best for our family, my husband and I implemented chores this week. To top it off, we also implemented a “no screen time” rule until after dinner on weekdays. We are a family of introverts and so I’ve always kind of been a pushover when it comes to screen time just because we all unwind differently. There are days that I just want to come in and lay down for 30 minutes in complete silence.
The result has been great though! We’re still trying to make this a habit so I’m constantly having to follow-up with them about it. If there’s one thing I’ve realized though, it’s that my kids find a lot of security in routine. They like knowing what’s going to happen when. Going into the afternoon knowing in advance that screen time is not an option until after dinner takes care of the constant questioning “can I see your phone?”
The avenue we chose to go down is assigning specific chores to be done each day. These chores won’t change from day-to-day. The daily chores are all chores that you just have to do in order to live on your own. So, clean your room, put your clothes away, make sure your homework is finished, help with dinner, load/unload the dishwasher. These chores are NOT paid chores because it’s just something that has to be done. If they aren’t doing it, someone else will be. For Saturdays, I add in washing a load of clothes just so they gain the knowledge. Once the daily chores are finished, I made a list specific chores that are over and above and merit payment (cleaning out the car, cleaning the toilets, vacuuming the carpeted areas, dusting, etc.)
All in all, I’m happy with the way things are going. It’s forcing my kids to find other ways to fill their time and I don’t feel like the laziest mom on the planet. I’d love to hear some feedback from you though! Do your kids do chores? Do you have other reward systems that you use outside of giving them money? Drop me a comment and let me know!